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Thursday, May 24, 2012

marriage




Marriage was used  as the synonym of  love by Shakespeare in one of his sonnets..
Sonnet 116

(Let Me Not to the Marriage of True Minds)
Let me not to the marriage of true minds
Admit impediments. Love is not love
Which alters when it alteration finds,
Or bends with the remover to remove:
O no! it is an ever-fixed mark
That looks on tempests and is never shaken;
It is the star to every wandering bark,
Whose worth's unknown, although his height be taken.
Love's not Time's fool, though rosy lips and cheeks
Within his bending sickle's compass come:
Love alters not with his brief hours and weeks,
But bears it out even to the edge of doom.
If this be error and upon me proved,
I never writ, nor no man ever loved.[1]
–William Shakespeare
Of course, the Bard of the Avon did not use the word marriage in the sense of the ceremonial function..
The fundamental element that can sustain marriage is mature and mutual love, and the tenacity to keep the relation unbroken and anxiety for  not reaching a point of no return, by a lot of mutual adjustment. If the basic undercurrent of love--for love marriages it may start even before marriage, for arranged marriages it may develop from a slow start to reach an even keel-- is not present, the marriage becomes meaningless. There are laws of divorce.. if the partner gets very bad diseases, becomes insane etc.. but how many marriages end up in divorce for such reasons? For a man and woman who started life together on the basis of mutual attraction perhaps, the same relationship becomes the only meaningful factor in their lives as years progress..Even after a married life of fifty years or more, with all the love, quarrels, bickering and even sometimes slight aberrations like adultery in between in some cases, the loss of a partner becomes unbearable and traumatic. We can say that it is all social conditioning, but there is always that extra something between the man and his woman or vice versa.. Youngsters may not understand the strength of the bond unless it is buttressed by mutual attraction and financial support, but all worldly things take the backseat as life progresses. I am understanding the depth after quarter of a century. In some remote agraharam house or a remote tharavad a thaatha and patty or muthassan and muthassy in their late eighties may not even talk to one another for days and they may not be able to hear each other ( because they have become deaf) but the way they exist in the secure company of one another is a lesson to be emulated. In fact the loss of a partner hurts one in geometrical proportions to the years of marriage. The reason for the closeness is beyond definition.. Shankaras "ShivaH shaktaya yuktho yadi bhavati shaktaH prabhavitum, na chedevam devo na khalu kushalaH spandithumapi.". applies to every ordinary shiva and sakthi.

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।श्रीकृष्णो रक्षतु।
|śrīkṛṣṇo rakṣatu|
Have a nice and happy day
with profound respect and warm regards
K V Ananthanarayanan
blog   http://kanfusion.blogspot.com/
त्यजन्तु बान्धवाः सर्वे निन्दन्तु गुरवो जनाःI
तदापि परमानन्दो गोविन्दो मम जीवनंII
let all my relatives abandon me, let the great people insult me, still I am in supreme bliss since my life  is GOVINDA alone.
Iकृष्णात् परं किमपि तत्वं अहं न जाने"I
लोकाः समस्ताः सुखिनो भवन्तु।
lokāḥ samastāḥ sukhino bhavantu|