fluctuating priorities....

लब्दविद्यो गुरुं द्वेष्टि लब्धभार्यस्तु मातरम्।
लब्दपुत्रा पतिं नारी लब्दारोग्यश्चिकित्सकम्॥७७
नीतिसारे॥।
labdavidyo guruṁ dveṣṭi labdhabhāryastu mātaram|
labdaputrā patiṁ nārī labdārogyaścikitsakam||77
nītisāre|||


a person who is cured of his disease, never thinks of the doctor who nursed him back to health..
(the word द्वेष्टि means hates or becomes an enemy.. we need not take that word literally.. dwesham here is just lack of interest..)
At least during our days of training we would care for the mentor with a lot of respect ..
But once we have drained out of him all that we could know, he becomes superfluous to us.. and we do not care for the teacher.. the show of respect at best would be cosmetic.

Once a fellow marries, his mother loses her significance for him..
This is known instinctively by every mother in law.. and that is the cause for the fireworks between MIL and DIL..

Once a child is born, and especially if the offspring is a boy, the mother's world undergoes a sea change..
Even her husband becomes less important..

And while the sick person and his attendants will be running around the doctor during the period of treatment, they would be simply evasive once reasonable cure is effected.. Some disappear without settling the bills too..

This quoteis from Neetisaaram..
It reflects the general behaviour of people and their activities when they are challenged and subsequently such chanllenges vanish or when they find greener pastures.

There will be exceptions..
Out of politeness some people would sport a smile and would show sympathy but the depth will be lacking

One should undertstand that he will get importance only when he is of some benefit to others..
That is life..

लब्दविद्यः गुरुं द्वेष्टि
a person who had been given adequate education does not care for the teacher anymore..
लब्दभार्यः तु मातरं द्वेष्टि
A person who has got married starts neglecting his mother.
लब्दपुत्रा नारी पतिं द्वेष्टि
Once a son is born, a lady loses her fancy for her husband.
लब्दारोग्यःचिकिल्सकं द्वेष्टि