choice of groom for marriage

 

नातिदूरे न चासन्ने अत्याढ्ये चातिदुर्बले ।

वृत्तिहीने च मूर्खे च षट्सु कन्या न दीयते ॥

- बृहत् पराशर स्मृति

naatidoorey na chaasanne athyaadye chaatidurbhale

vrittiheene cha moorkhe cha shatsu kanyaa na deeyate|

This is from Brihat Parasharasmrithi… a much respected treatise on Law… almost on par with Manusmriti, and the work of Yajnavalkya…

We should not give a girl of the family in marriage

1. To a groom who is from too far a place

2. To a groom who is from the same locality

3.To a groom who is too high socially , culturally and financially in comparison

4. To a groom whose is too low socially, culturally and financially in comparison

5.To a groom who is not having a job or who it not engaged in a profession as a means of livelihood.

6. To a groom who is cruel and idiotic