Sir, this I wrote in the course of a discussion in a forum but went thoroughly unnoticed. Who has the time and broadmindedness to show gratitude. They say Lord Jesus cured thirteen lepers from their horrible disease by his holy touch...everyone except one fellow ran away to enjoy life even without thanking the God. So, kuputro bhavathi na kwachitapi kumaatha...
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by kannan on 2/13/10
the sufferings of our mothers never ended, in fact. Generation after generation they would be possessive of their children and would give up all they have including health, comforts--even though they were meagre, and wonderfully ensure the welfare of most of their offspring. But as luck would have it when there are many children one or two of them may be unfortunate in one way or other--defects of the limbs, unfortunate marriages, widowhood etc. So at the twilight of their lives the mothers would start their lives once again to shelter the lesser privileged children.. sometimes the saga will extend to grandchildren also. And ultimately when the mami or patti died she would have been already a living corpse held aloft only by the love for her children. Strangely they found fulfillment in such life. There was another category, mamis with no children. They will be looking after their nephews and nieces of either side like their own children. Ultimately the own children or the persons whom they thought of as their own children all would be equally thankless...Children will throng to the agraharam on hearing the death of parents to share the booty if they had not managed to bleed them white during their lifetime itself. But the mamas were rather indifferent, mookkupody, vettipechu, some cigarette or beedi and minor sambandams, thus was their usual lifestyles.Mami has to manage the kitchen and the children, It was all the more miserable for a lady who became a widow also...so many social taboos, insults.... Suffering was the synonym for the Iyer woman those days and to a certain extent these days also. I salute Krishnamama's boldness in raising this topic. Let the mamas and mamis and the youngsters be honest. A cozy job or a degree has not made much difference in our social attitude towards our mothers and grandmothers.