others have little time to think of us either way, favourably or unfavourably

 

Often we plan our actions not based on what is really chellenging us but based on what we just imagine as posing threats to us.

Moreover, mostly our imagination has nothing to do with facts.

Therefore, we are miserable when we need not be, and we are happy when we should not be.

Moreover, in interactions with others we just think that everyone else is always thinking of us and our actions or inactions and mentally prepare long lists and data banks about what others think of us.

However, in reality others have little time to think of us either way, favourably or unfavourably..

They have their own lives, their own anxieties and their own kitchens to cook food.

In addition, if some fellows set aside all personal affairs and just devote all their time in poking their noses into the affairs of others, they are not worth noticing.

Firstly, their own lack of attention to their own personal affairs of greater importance would destroy them eventually.

And secondly they are wrong because no one can understand the affairs of others really well, even if he is a very close acquaintance or relative..

There are limitations even in a mother's understanding the mind of her own newly born.