Actually no one really cares to go behind the intention of the statement or post

While giving a public statement or in a post especially in social media all that matters is what the ordinary listener or the reader understands or gathers from them as the first impression or on first reading.

Actually no one really cares to go behind the intention of the statement or post or to have a research on what was the ultimate thought-process of the person who spoke or wrote.

In fact our thoughts and intentions should be clearly processed and shaped and the message given should be precise.

That capacity has to be developed through very hard work.

Just consider the reader as a judge or magistrate and consider oneself as a lawyer or counsel..

The counsel cannot expect the judge to go behind the words and cull out the intention behind the arguments presented.

If that care is taken then the statements would be exact and precise

In fact that clarity in presentation makes all the difference between ordinary and extra ordinary

nice friendships start in a small way and grow strong. showy affairs..?

अणुपूर्वं बृहत् पश्चात् भवत्यार्येषु सङ्गतम्।

विपरीतमनार्येषु यथेच्छसि तथा कुरु॥

चाणक्य राजनीतिशास्त्रे महासुभाषितसङ्ग्रहे ४८५

अतः परीक्ष्य कर्तव्यं विशेषात् सङ्गतं रहः।

अज्ञातहृदयेष्वेव वैरीभवति सौहृदम्॥

अभिज्ञानशाकुन्तले कालिदासः

aṇupūrvaṁ bṛhat paścāt bhavatyāryeṣu saṅgatam|

viparītamanāryeṣu yathecchasi tathā kuru||

cāṇakya rājanītiśāstre mahāsubhāṣitasaṅgrahe 485

ataḥ parīkṣya kartavyaṁ viśeṣāt saṅgataṁ rahaḥ|

ajñātahṛdayeṣveva vairībhavati sauhṛdam||

abhijñānaśākuntale kālidāsaḥ

The association and friendship with great people start in a very small way. At start the connection would be so small like an atom. However the friendship grows into a big connection in quality and quantity as time progresses.

However the association or friendship with people of mean mind and questionable credential often start with a lot of show, pomp and pretentions. However, such connections get cut off within no time

Therefore, Chanakya advises the reader to choose his connections and act according to his own choice

Kalidasa in Shakuntalam sounds a note of caution against developing connections with a person who is a stranger and whose antecedents are not really known. He advices greater caution when meeting with such person is in secret. He states that if the mind and heart of a person is not properly understood before developing connections, such connection could end up in deep enimity and hatred too..

അണുപൂര്‍വം ബൃഹത് പശ്ചാത് ഭവത്യാര്യേഷു സങ്ഗതം।

വിപരീതമനാര്യേഷു യഥേച്ഛസി തഥാ കുരു॥

ചാണക്യ രാജനീതിശാസ്ത്രേ മഹാസുഭാഷിതസങ്ഗ്രഹേ ൪൮൫

അതഃ പരീക്ഷ്യ കര്‍തവ്യം വിശേഷാത് സങ്ഗതം രഹഃ।

അജ്ഞാതഹൃദയേഷ്വേവ വൈരീഭവതി സൌഹൃദം॥

അഭിജ്ഞാശാകുന്തളേ കാളിദാസഃ

നല്ല മനുഷ്യരുമായുള്ള കൂട്ടുകെട്ടും സൌഹൃദവും ഏറെ ചെറിയ തോതില്‍ മാത്രമേ ആരംഭിക്കുകയുള്ളൂ. തുടക്കത്തില്‍ അത് ഒരു അണുവിന്‍റെയത്രയും ചെറുതായി തോന്നാം. പക്ഷെ കാലം കടന്നു പോകുമ്പോള്‍ ആ സൗഹൃദം അതിന്‍റെ തരത്തിലും വലിപ്പത്തിലും ഏറെ മുന്നേറുന്നു.

ചീത്ത മനസ്സുള്ളവരും ദുരുദ്ദേശത്തോടെ ചങ്ങാത്തവും അടുപ്പവും ഭാവിച്ചു വരുന്നവരുമായുള്ള കൂട്ടുകെട്ട് ഏറെ കെട്ടുകാഴ്ചകളോടും, ആഘോഷത്തോടും ആട്ടവും പാട്ടുമായി തുടങ്ങും. പക്ഷെ ഏറെ താമസിയാതെ അത്തരം കൂട്ടുകെട്ടുകള്‍ നാമാവശേശങ്ങള്‍ ആയിത്തീരും.

ഇത്രയും പറഞ്ഞ് ചാണക്യന്‍ തന്‍റെ വായനക്കാരോട് അവര്‍ക്ക് ഇഷ്ടമുള്ള കൂട്ടുകെട്ടുകള്‍ തിരഞ്ഞെടുക്കാന്‍ ഉപദേശിക്കുന്നു.

കാളിദാസന്‍ ശാകുന്തളത്തില്‍ ഒരാളുടെ ജീവിതപശ്ചാത്തലവും സ്വഭാവ ഗുണവും പരീക്ഷിച്ച് മനസ്സിലാക്കാതെ അയാളുമായുള്ള സൌഹൃദത്തില്‍ ഏര്‍പ്പെടുന്നതിന്നെതിരെ താക്കീത് നല്‍കുന്നു. അത്തരം മനുഷ്യരുമായി എകാന്തത്തില്‍ രഹസ്യമായി കണ്ടുമുട്ടുന്നത് ഏറെ അപകടകരം ആയിരിക്കും. കാളിദാസന്‍റെ അഭിപ്രായം ഇതാണ് ..ഒരാളുടെ ഹൃദയവും മനസ്സും ശരിക്ക് മനസ്സിലാക്കാതെ അയാളുമായി ചങ്ങാത്തം കൂടിയാല്‍ പിന്നീട് അത് വെറുപ്പിലും ശത്രുതയിലും ചെന്ന് അവസാനിക്കും

even deformity suffered fo the sake of others attract praise

परार्थे यः पीडामनुभवति भङ्गोऽपि मधुरो

यदीयः सर्वेषामिह खलु विकारोऽप्यभिमतः।

नसंप्राप्तो वृद्धिम् भृशमक्षेत्रपतितः

किमिक्षोर्दोषोऽयं न पुनरगुणाया मरुभुवः॥

सूक्तिमुक्तावल्यां , भल्लटशतके, ध्वन्यालोके

parārthe yaḥ pīḍāmanubhavati bhaṅgo'pi madhuro

yadīyaḥ sarveṣāmiha khalu vikāro'pyabhimataḥ|

nasaṁprāpto vṛddhim bhṛśamakṣetrapatitaḥ

kimikṣordoṣo'yaṁ na punaraguṇāyā marubhuvaḥ||

sooktimuktaavalee bhallatashataka dhvanyaaloka

When a person suffers torture for the sake of others, even his injuries and the result of such injuries would be sweet. Even his deformity suffered would be viewed with approval by all.

When sugarcane is planted in desert land without any irrigation, it would not grow. Such lack of growth is definitely not on account of any defect of the sugarcane stalk. It is just because of the arid nature of the desert land.

The sugarcane is crushed and sugar candy is extracted. The extract is so sweet but that process does not give any comfort for the sugar-cane plant. The sugar-candy sweetens the lives of others. After the sugar-juice is extracted, the sugarcane stalk is deformed.

Either when it grew or when it is crushed, the sugarcane is only doing well. Sometimes, great people and great warriors work for people who are not that good and they get defeated and crushed too. But that defeat is not because of the person who worked, but actually it is caused by the defect of the one for whom he worked.

പരാര്‍ഥേ യഃ പീഡാമനുഭവതി ഭങ്ഗോഽപി മധുരോ

യദീയഃ സര്‍വേഷാമിഹ ഖലു വികാരോഽപ്യഭിമതഃ।

നസംപ്രാപ്തോ വൃദ്ധിം ഭൃശമക്ഷേത്രപതിതഃ

കിമിക്ഷോര്‍ദോഷോഽയം ന പുനരഗുണായാ മരുഭുവഃ॥

സൂക്തിമുക്താവല്യാം, ഭല്ലടശതകേ, ധ്വന്യാലോകേ

മറ്റുള്ളവരെ സേവിച്ച് അവര്‍ക്കുവേണ്ടി പീഡനം അനുഭവിക്കുന്ന ആള്‍ക്ക് അനുഭവിക്കേണ്ടി വരുന്ന മുറിവുകള്‍ പോലും ഏറെ മധുരതരങ്ങള്‍ ആയിരിക്കും. അത്തരം പീഡനങ്ങള്‍ മൂലം ഉണ്ടാവുന്ന ശാരീരിക വൈകൃതങ്ങള്‍ പോലും മറ്റുള്ളവരാല്‍ പ്രശംസിക്കപ്പെട്ടെയ്ക്കാം.

ഒട്ടും നീരോട്ടമില്ലാത്ത മരുപ്രദേശത്ത് നട്ട കരിമ്പിന്‍തടി വളര്‍ന്നു വലുതാവുകയില്ല. ആ മുരടിപ്പിന് കാരണം കരിമ്പിന്‍ചെടി അല്ല. ആ ഭൂമിയുടെ ഊഷരത്വം കാരണമാണ് ആ വളര്‍ച്ചയില്ലായ്മ.

കരിമ്പിന്‍തണ്ട് ചതച്ചരച്ച് ശര്‍ക്കര ഉണ്ടാക്കുന്നു. ശര്‍ക്കരയും കരിമ്പിന്‍നീരും എല്ലാം അതി മധുരങ്ങളാണ്. എന്നാല്‍ ആ കഠിനമായ പീഡനം ഏറ്റത്കൊണ്ട് കരിമ്പിന് എന്ത് ലാഭം കിട്ടി ? കരിമ്പ് സ്വയം ചതവേറ്റ് മറ്റുള്ളവരുടെ ജീവിതത്തില്‍ മാധുര്യം പരത്തുന്നു. പക്ഷെ ആ പ്രക്രിയ മൂലം സ്വയം ചതഞ്ഞരഞ്ഞു കോലംകെടുന്നു.

വളര്‍ന്നു നില്‍ക്കുമ്പോള്‍ ആയാലും ചതഞ്ഞു അരഞ്ഞ ശേഷമായാലും കരിമ്പ് എല്ലാവര്‍ക്കും നല്ലത് മാത്രം നല്‍കുന്നു. ഇതുപോലെ മഹാ പണ്ഡിതന്മാരും ധീരരായ യോദ്ധാക്കളും എല്ലാം അത്രയൊന്നും നല്ലവരല്ലാത്ത യജമാനന്മാര്‍ക്ക്‌ വേണ്ടി ജോലി ചെയ്യുകയും, പലപ്പോഴും അക്കാരണം കൊണ്ട് തന്നെ പരാജിതര്‍ ആവുകയും ചെയ്യാം. പക്ഷെ ആ പരാജയം സേവനം അനുഷ്ടിച്ച നല്ല മനുഷ്യന്‍റെ തോല്‍വിയായി കണക്കാക്കാനാവില്ല. അവരെ ശരിയല്ലാത്ത വിധം നിയോഗിച്ച യജമാനന്മാരുടെ കഴിവുകേടാണ് അതിനുള്ള യഥാര്‍ത്ഥ കാരണം.

classy people never put themselves in situations forcing them to obey other people

न सदश्वाः कशाघातं न सिंहो घनगर्जितम्।

परैरङ्गुलिनिद्देशं न सहन्ते तरस्विनः॥

सूक्तिरत्नकोशे

na sadaśvāḥ kaśāghātaṁ na siṁho ghanagarjitam|

paraiaraṅgulinirddheśaṁ na sahante tarasvinaḥ||

sūktiratnakośe

A horse of high pedigree and class would never tolerate, would never wait for lashes from whip

A valiant lion would never tolerate the roar of the black clouds

People of class would never tolerate and receive quietly the orders of others coming as instruction through gestures of the fingers of masters.

In fact classy horses would be so efficient and alert that they would easily guess what transpires in the mind of their masters and would act with alertness even if they are not prodded to action through the use of whips

A lion is so proud and confident about its own strength and its own power to roar that when clouds high in the sky roar aloud, the lions too would roar back, as if returning the challenge

In the same manner classy people would never put themselves in situations where they would have to obey the directions of some other people..

ന സദശ്വാഃ കശാഘാതം ന സിംഹോ ഘനഗര്‍ജിതം।

പരൈരങ്ഗുലിനിര്‍ദ്ദേശം ന സഹന്തേ തരസ്വിനഃ॥

സൂക്തിരത്നകോശേ

നല്ല ജനുസ്സിലുള്ള കുതിരകള്‍ ചാട്ടയടി സഹിക്കുകയില്ല.. ചാട്ടയാടിക്കായി കാത്തിരിക്കില്ല.

കാട്ടിന്‍റെ രാജാവ് മേഘങ്ങളുടെ ഗര്‍ജ്ജനം സഹിക്കുകയില്ല.

തരവും അന്തസ്സും ഉള്ള മനുഷ്യര്‍ മറ്റുള്ളവരുടെ ചുണ്ടുവിരല്‍ അനങ്ങുന്നത് അനുസരിച്ച് തുള്ളിക്കളിക്കാന്‍ ഒരിക്കലും തയാരാവുകയില്ല.

നല്ല തരമുള്ള കുതിരകള്‍ ഏറെ ശക്തിയും വേഗതയും ഉണര്‍വ്വും എല്ലാം ഒത്തിണങ്ങിയവ ആയിരിക്കും. അവ യജമാനന്‍റെ ഇംഗിതങ്ങള്‍ വേഗത്തില്‍ ഗ്രഹിച്ചെടുത്ത് ചാട്ടയടിക്ക് കാത്തിരിക്കാതെ മുന്നോട്ടു കുതിക്കും

സിംഹത്തിന് സ്വന്തം വീര്യത്തെക്കുരിച്ചും ശക്തിയെക്കുറിച്ചും തികഞ്ഞ ആത്മവിശ്വാസം ആണ്. ആകാശത്തില്‍ മേഘങ്ങള്‍ ഗര്‍ജ്ജിക്കുമ്പോള്‍ അവ സ്വന്തം ഗര്ജ്ജനത്തെ വെല്ലുവിളിക്കുകയാണ് എന്നാണ് സിഹം ധരിക്കുക. ആ വെല്ലുവിളി നേരിടാന്‍ തയാറായി സിംഹം ഉടനെ തിരിച്ചു ഗര്‍ജ്ജിക്കുംഅതുപോലെ തന്നെ മറ്റൊരാളുടെ ചൊല്‍പ്പടിയില്‍ നിന്നുകൊണ്ട് അയാള്‍ ചൂണ്ടുവിരല്‍ അനക്കുന്നത് ശ്രദ്ധിച്ച് അയാളെ അനുസരിച്ച് ജീവിതം കഴിക്കാന്‍ തരവും അന്തസ്സും ഉള്ള ഒരാള്‍ക്ക് ഒരിക്കലും സാധ്യമാവുകയില്ല

If one is a rat in real life and roars like a lion here, he is neither rat nor lion

 

I do not believe in doing anything half-heartedly and I do not believe in trivializing anything.

There is a choice for anyone to say that social media does not represent the actual human transaction.

However, I do not want to take that option.

I know that most of the people with whom I interact and who are supposed to be my friends in social media do not take such interactions seriously. They use the forum to portray and market a larger than life image of themselves here. Most others wink at it, and mark "like" even after knowing that the tall claims are just beats of empty drums.

I do not grudge others doing that. It is their choice.

But I have always tried to interact with others in the most natural and spontaneous way from my part, neither exaggerating nor underplaying.

It is my personal standards that matter to me-whether in social media or outside-and not what others think of me.

I think, the transactions in these forums also should follow the pattern we follow in real life..

If one is a rat in real life and roars like a lion here, he is neither rat nor lion, but in my view, he is a vermin..

YatayaH ShuddhasattvaaH..

YatayaH ShuddhasattvaaH..

वेदांत विज्ञान सुनिश्चितार्थाः संन्यास योगाः यतयः शुद्धसत्त्वाः

Every Sage or Sannyasin is ultimately Lord Shankara in human shape..

Maybe the greatest of the ascetics Shankaraachaarya the Acharyaswamikal, got that name just because of that

When a sage attains Videha Mukthi or liberation from the physical body, His mortal remains are confined to mother earth by burial, but the hallowed piece of earth is consecrated by a ShivaLingam..

The memories of the Sage are worshipped as Shankara

And Sri Rudram is chanted in praised of Shankara.

Of course, it has to be remembered

that

Shankara means the eternal Lord who creates, controls and even destroys the universe...

call Him Narayana, Durga or by any other names.

एकं सद्विप्राः बहुधा वदन्ति

Ekam sadvipraa bahudhaa vadanti

The one thing which the learned people call in many ways.

Parabrahma or God has really no name.. He is present everywhere, and so every name we can think of is His name.

Still for identification, we choose some quality of His (or Hers) and call it Shiva, Rudra, Vishnu, Narayana, Durga, Ambika or Kaali..

नमोस्तु अनन्ताय सहस्र मूर्तये

सहस्र पादार्चि शिरोरुबाहवे

सहस्रनाम्ने पुरुषाय शाश्वते

सहस्र कोटीयुगधारिणे नमः.

Namstu ananthaaya sahasramoorthaye

sahasrapaadaarchi shirorubaahave

sahasranaamne purushaaya shaasvate

sahasrkotee yugadhaarine namaH..

Pranams to that being who has no destruction, who manifests in thousand shapes

Who has thousand feet, legs, heads, thighs, and hands all in thousands

Who has thousand name, who is the eternal primordial Purusha

Who carries in Himself time being reckoned in thousands of crores of units..

We have to understand this thousand as infinity..

Human mind struggles when it has to cope up with very huge and imposing things..

Then the mind finds satisfcation or repose by just giving that infinity some finite number, large enough like thousand..

NamaH Shivaaya..

We have to live with them

चन्दनतरुषु भुजङ्गाः जलेषु कमलानि तत्र ग्राहाः।

गुणघातिनश्च पिशुनाः भोगे न सुखान्यविघ्नानि॥हितोपदेशे

candanataruṣu bhujaṅgāḥ jaleṣu kamalāni tatra grāhāḥ|

guṇaghātinaśca piśunāḥ bhoge na sukhānyavighnāni||hitoapadeshe

Venomous snakes curl around sandalwood trees. While enjoying the aroma and coolness of chandanam one has to contend with such harmful reptiles too

Attractive lotus flowers bloom in plenty in lakes and ponds. However such waterfronts would be infested with crocodiles too. To have lotus we have to live in fear of crocodiles too.

Even in the most attractive and beneficial environments we would find backbiters and slanderers who would take away the comfort, beauty and attractiveness of the social interactions.

Yes, we cannot have all the comforts and enjoyments without interruptions and roadblocks. We have to live with them.

I do not have any fancy for frills

I said I liked intellectual activity, but never have I claimed that I am a superior intellectual..

I meant that I did not have any fancy for frills..

It is a personality trait.. born with me and perhaps will only die with me..

I do not propose to flaunt it as a virtue or superiority I possess over any other being..

Then to guide and render advice to others, I should know, and I should have the confidence that I know at least a little, and then there should be persons who will care even for a wee bit about my views..

I do not think I have any such advantages..

Who am I to don the garb of a guide or guru?

I am not qualified in any way..

And even if I, in my idiocy or arrogance or vanity,assume that I am superior, who will accept it?

My thinking process and my limited faculty of analysis are the only two things that I possess.. both may be imperfect and faulty, but that is all that I have..

If I have a choice to wear all the costly clothes and I have the money to purchase them too, I can wear and shine..

If I have only tattered and dirty clothes, and I am not capable of even washing them, all I should do is to wear them..

I cannot remain naked just because I do not have costly apparel..

And I am neither jealous or critical of persons who acquire and wear clothes, rightfully owned or stolen, or even about people who prefer to remain naked..

It is their choice..

I am neither capable of nor bound to correct anyone..

My control, limited as it might be is confined to this body of five feet seventy five kilos.. Nothing else..

I have no reason either to be jealous or critical of anyone else..

I can only try to ask myself what I am..

And I am a clumsy learner..

To learn even a little and present it even to the limited contentment of myself takes a lot of labour and tears..

So how can I communicate effectively with any other person, and present my ideas to his satisfaction?

My writings come sporadically, without any premeditation or deep thought..

The thoughts get generated in the brain, flow to the fingertips in a jiffy, and appear as impressions or posts, and once that process is over, I am completely dead to my thoughts..

Neither I nor anyone else, I think, has any use for fellows like me..

genuine knowledge can exist only in the company of patience and tolerance

 

नरस्याभरणं रूपं रूपस्याभरणं गुण:।

गुणस्याभरणं ज्ञानं। ज्ञानस्याभरणं क्षमा॥सुभाषितरत्नसंच्चयं

narasyābharaṇaṃ rūpaṃ rūpasyābharaṇaṃ guṇa:।

guṇasyābharaṇaṃ jñānaṃ। jñānasyābharaṇaṃ kṣamā॥subhāṣitaratnasaṃccayaṃ

Attractive appearance and charisma adds real value to a man

The genuine attractiveness for a man is his praiseworthy qualities.

The praiseworthy qualities originate and gets further embellishment when there is an eternal inflow of knowledge

In addition, knowledge, the genuine one, can exist only in the company of patience and tolerance.

a careless blow by a rod can shatter the pot in a split second

दीर्घप्रयासेन कृतं हि वस्तु निमेषमात्रेण भजेद् विनाशम् ।

कर्तुं कुलालस्य तु वर्षमेकं भेत्तुं हि दण्डस्य मूहूर्तमात्रम् ।।

सूक्तिमुक्तावली – 84

dīrghaprayāsena kṛtaṃ hi vastu nimeṣamātreṇa bhajed vināśam ।

kartuṃ kulālasya tu varṣamekaṃ bhettuṃ hi daṇḍasya mūhūrtamātram ।।

sūktimuktāvalī – 84

It takes very long periods to plan, organise and actualise projects or to give the right shape to objects we strive to create. However, the prolonged dedicated creative process would become futile through some sporadic, careless indiscrete action. A potter toils with meticulous care for one year to give shape to a clay pot. However, a careless blow by a rod can shatter the pot in a split second. Good Morning K V Ananthanarayanan

दीर्घ prolonged, spanning over long periods प्रयासेन work, exertion कृतं done वस्तु object निमेषमात्रेण within a second विनाशं destruction, shattering भजेद् हि may face भाण्डं a pot made of clay कर्तुं to create कुलालस्य for the potter एकं one वर्षं year अवश्यं भवति is required . तं भेत्तुं to shatter that दण्डस्य for a log or staff एकमात्रं only one मुहूर्तं split second हि अलंindeed is sufficient

the definition of happiness also undergoes sea changes

the definition of happiness also undergoes sea changes.

First we are happy with even small things. But we tend to ask more as time advances and only things not easy to get can make us happy.

It is something similar to taking some intoxicant.

First small dosages would give us heaven but as we get addicted we would crave for huge doses..and we proceed to points from where there are no comebacks

Initialky we manage to get happiness without making others unhappy..we do not grab and snatch.

But as our demands grow we grab snatch steal or even loot.

If our pursuit for happiness does not deprive others of their welfare pursuit of happiness is okay.

Upon God, I do not want any happiness for myself won at the cost of the tears of my neighbour

It is better to be unhappy all my life than making others miserable.

that a true friend, will not do anything which could not be forgiven

It is very difficult to get a friend in this world..

we have to coin the word friend-in-law for many of our so-called friends, especially with the spate of friendship in social-media..

But still I do hope that a true friend, if there is one, will not do anything which could not be forgiven..

If a situation has arisen where the question of forgiving comes, the friendship must have lost its sense and content.

Forgiving of course comes for inadvertent and innocent offences.. and if a friend is really considerate, then normally such situations may not arise..

But innocent damages do occur...like Dasaratha killing the only son of a blind ascetic couple and incurring their curse..