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Showing posts with label friend. Show all posts
Showing posts with label friend. Show all posts

Tuesday, June 07, 2011

these four can make or mar you

सुहृदि निरन्तरचित्ते गुणवति भृत्येऽनुवर्त्तिनि कलत्रे।
स्वामिनि सौहृदयुक्ते निवेद्य दुःखं सुखी भवति॥११०
विष्णुशर्मणः पञ्चतन्त्रे मित्रभेदे॥
suhṛdi nirantaracitte guṇavati bhṛtye'nuvarttini kalatre|
svāmini sauhṛdayukte nivedya duḥkhaṁ sukhī bhavati||110
viṣṇuśarmaṇaḥ pañcatantre mitrabhede||

If one can explain  about his own woes and sufferings to 
 (1) A friend who is always having genuine concern and  undeterred love for the former, 
(2) a faithful servant who is of good character  
(3) a wife who is understanding and accommodating, and 
(4) A boss  who has reasonably good heart filled with sympathy for his subordinates, 
 the agonies can be mitigated and he can be expected to lead a hassle free life.

Here one has to remember  a selfish friend,  a wayward servant, a wife without any concern for the husband and a callous  boss individually and in combination, could the cause of all agonies one has to face.

 Our whole  lifetime is almost fully shared by these four.

A so-called  friend who can double-cross on you at the drop of a hat can seal your fate.  
But a faithful friend will espouse your case in any forum and bring you succour. 
 A good servant is one who would willingly keep aside his selfish interests for the welfare of the master. 
 But servants who have joined you just to ensure your annihilation are a common sight. 
This  also applies to subordinates in the managerial hierarchy.  
The one person with whom one has to share his life in all its aspect is his wife.  

If the views and attitudes of the wife are at loggerheads with his own peace of mind, it is better that the victim abandons normal life and go to forest to live the life of a mendicant. (Chanakya has said.. "Maatha yasya grihe naasti bhaarya cha priyvaadinii  aranyam tena ganthavyam yadaaranya tato griham...if  one is not having his mother at home and the wife if not favourably disposes, he can shift his residence to forest all alone, since forest would definitely a better abode under the circumstances") .

If one is blessed with a master who is understanding most of the former's problems in life are gone for ever.  
But if the boss is a nagging one always holding on to the principle that the role of the  Manager to find fault with the subordinates and  just pass on the bucks to them, the employee's life turns into a veritable hell.  
The heat of this inferno ought to have been felt by men in all professions and avocations at some point of time.

സുഹൃദി നിരന്തരചിത്തേ ഗുണവതി ഭൃത്യേഽനുവര്‍ത്തിനി കളത്രേ।
സ്വാമിനി സൌഹൃദയുക്തേ നിവേദ്യ ദുഃഖം സുഖീ ഭവതി॥110

വിഷ്ണുശര്‍മ്മണഃ പഞ്ചതന്ത്രേ മിത്രഭേദേ॥

വിഷ്ണുശര്‍മ്മയുടെ പഞ്ചതന്ത്രം എന്ന കൃതിയിലെ മിത്രഭേദം എന്ന ഭാഗത്തില്‍ നിന്നാണ്  ഈ സുഭാഷിതം.  നമ്മുടെ  ജീവിതത്തില്‍ എല്ലാ സന്ദര്‍ഭങ്ങളിലും പ്രസക്തമായ  കാര്യമാണ് ഇവിടെ പറഞ്ഞിരിക്കുന്നത്‌.

ഒരാള്‍ തന്റെ വിഷമങ്ങളും പ്രശ്നങ്ങളും
 

തന്നോടു വിശ്വസ്തതവും അടുപ്പവും എപ്പോഴും വച്ചുപുലര്‍ത്തുന്ന കൂട്ടുകാരനോടോ 

കൂറും സത്യസന്ധതയും ഉള്ള ഭൃത്യനോടോ 

വിഷമങ്ങള്‍ മനസിലാക്കാനും
പങ്കുവയ്ക്കാനും മനസ്സുള്ള നല്ലവളായ ഭാര്യയോടോ 

തന്നോടു അനുകമ്പയും തന്റെ നന്മയില്‍ താലപര്യവും ഉള്ള മുതലാളിയോടോ 

കൂടെ പങ്കുവയ്ക്കുകയാണെങ്കില്‍
ദുഃഖവും പ്രശ്നങ്ങളും എല്ലാം മാറി അയാള്‍ സന്തോഷവാനായിത്തീരും. 


നല്ല കൂട്ടുകാരന്‍, നല്ല വേലക്കാരന്‍, നല്ല ഭാര്യ അല്ലെങ്കില്‍ നല്ല മുതലാളി... ഇതൊക്കെ കിട്ടാന്‍ എളുപ്പമാണോ?  ആലോചിക്കേണ്ട കാര്യമാണത്

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Thursday, August 19, 2010

character is the charm

character is the charm

मित्रं स्वच्छततया रिपुं नयबलैर्लुब्धं धनैरीश्वरं।
कार्येण द्विजमादरेण युवतिं प्रेम्णा समैर्बान्धवं॥
अत्युग्रं स्तुतिभिर् गुरुं प्रणतिभिर्मूर्खं कथाभिर्बुधं।
विद्याभी रसिकं रसेन सकलम् शीलेन कुर्याद्वशं॥
mitraṁ svacchatatayā ripuṁ nayabalairlubdhaṁ dhanairīśvaraṁ|
kāryeaṇa dvijamādareṇa yuvatiṁ premṇā samairbāndhavaṁ||
atyugraṁ stutibhir gururṁ praṇatibhirmūrkhaṁ kathābhirbhudhaṁ|
vidyābhī rasikaṁ rasena sakalam śīlena kuryādvaśaṁ||

हितोपदेशम्
hitopadeśam
 One can always maintain intimacy with  bosom friends by being just natural.
 With appropriate strategy and show of strength one can keep his enemy at bay.
A miser can be kept pleased only by supply of more funds,


One's favourite God can be propitiated through service ( to all humans).
 A beautiful young lady can be made happy through romance


One's relatives will be happy if one shows the sense of equality and identify with them. 

We lose many close relations by flaunting our own so called status. 
For the parents we are just the sons and daughters 
and for the siblings we are only brothers or sisters.


To keep a ferocious thing   away from attacking us is only by vocal praise or even flattery
( the ferocious thing can appear in so many forms....wife, boss. mother in law,  to cite a few examples) . 


The only way the preceptor can be kept   happy is by prostrating at his feet 



The learned person will be pleased when one shares his knowledge and erudition  with humility.  . 


 One can keep the friendship of an inveterate idiot only by engaging him with silly talk.

 A connoisseur in fine arts will be pleased when the art is performed to perfection.

 And everyone in the world will be pleased with one's good manners
and character.
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Sunday, August 01, 2010

happy friensdhip day

I pray for the welfare of all my dear friends on the Friendship day. May Krishna sustains the friendship and bless us all . I thank the lord for granting me the privilege to be your frined.

--
।श्रीकृष्णो रक्षतु।
|śrīkṛṣṇo rakṣatu|
Have a nice and happy day
with profound respect and warm regards
K V Ananthanarayanan
(kanfusion)
blog   http://kanfusion.blogspot.com/
त्यजन्तु बान्धवाः सर्वे निन्दन्तु गुरवो जनाःI
तदापि परमानन्दो गोविन्दो मम जीवनंII
let all my relatives abandon me, let the great people insult me, still I am in supreme bliss since my life  is GOVINDA alone.
Iकृष्णात् परं किमपि तत्वं अहं न जाने"I

Saturday, May 08, 2010

my pranams

My dear friends, I offer my pranams to you all on my 56th birthday according to Hindu calendar.  56 is an age a of great difficulty even according to astrology. People condut bheemratha santhi etc, But for me everything depends on Krishna. But Krishna now enjoys giving me physical ailments. My humble request to my friends is that will you please pray to God on behalf of me? In spite of all I wirte and do my health is in and unconfortable situaton, and your prayers would definietely be of great relief form me.

--
श्री कृष्णो रक्षतु
with profound respect and warm regards
K V Ananthanarayanan