a ritualisstic advise

 

A question was put to me
Sir namaskaram. Need some kind advise. My relation had fixed poonal for his only son on April 2nd at Tirunelveli. He and his family flew from the USA for the function. Suddenly on March 28 his father ( grand father of the vatu ) died. Cannot they perform poonal after the graheyagyam ?
Thanks. Regards


My answer
after Sapindeekaranam.. of course 13 th day is only subhasweekaram..
The brahmopadesham and upanayanam can be conducted.. and if possible without too much of ostentation.. Some believe the seethakam is upto 45 days after sapindeekaranam, some believe it is upto six months and some would say it is upto one year.. Anyway, if at all any restrictions are there it is only for the Kartha .. the eldest son who performs the karmam..
The seethakam does not apply to the Vatu who is grandson.. Considering all the facts the function can be conducted without much pomp any good day after subhasweekaram..
If at all there is any emotional reservation is there for the father of the Vatu if he is the son of the deceased, the brahmopadesham can be done by some immediate kin like chitthappa or mama.. But even that is not necessary..
In fact the Pithrus are watching and every brahmopadesham in their gothram will only give them happiness..
I would conclude that the function can be conducted on any good day after the 13th day.. Only thing is that the compulsor sodhaka kumbham or maseeka or any of the shodasha sraddham days should not be used for the function..